lots of domestic problems happening recently in my eldest aunt's house, and it had gotten rather out of hand. the violence and mental torture led my parents to bring home my maternal grandmother to stay with us until my youngest aunt return home from abroad.

it is rather scary considering my 14 years old cousin to be capable of violence and manipulation. according to my mom, uncles and aunts, his bedroom walls are filled with holes, the results of constant hammerings into the walls. apparently, he keeps a tool box in his room, and hammer the walls with a hammer whenever he's angry and agitated. and he had already stopped schooling for a year. at home, he fights with his mom phsically, and threatens to jump down from their house. his mom, however, continues to side him and refused to send him for counselling or refer him to the law for control. at 14, he's overgrown and his hair is long because he nevers step out from his bedroom. its like he's trapped in his own world, with weird fantasies running through his mind.

once, his mom took the key to force open the room door because she wanted him to get out and talked to the relatives who were visiting. from inside the room, he struggled to keep the door closed and when there was a gap, he took an insecticide can and sprayed onto his own mother's face!

yesterday night, when my parents and relatives tried to open the door of his bedroom as there was a commotion between his mom and him inside, he took out a hammer and threatened to hit. he almost send the hammer onto my mother's head! they then quickly closed the door and called for the police, because it had turned to domestic violence.

my grandmother said she cried to sleep everynight, living in constant fear. although he didnt beat her, there were always physical fights between mother and son. he was also very good in manipulation, instilling fear into his closest kin. he was bitter, and didnt want my grandmother to stay in the house, even though it was my grandmother's house. when my granmother was hospitalised the other time, he prevented my aunt from visiting her, giving threats such as "i'll jump down if you go."

my dad said his room smelled, and he doesnt on the lights. seeing him at new year, i'm convinced that he is really affected mentally and spiritually, because it shows in his eyes. there wasnt life in his eyes, and he constantly looked at the ground. and despite being stuck at home for so long, he was stronger than my dad and uncle put together. scary it is.

now that he's been refered to as a police case, we're all hoping that things will start to turn out right. its really heart wrenching to see how my cousin, whom i used to play with, become so demented. i could not blame him, but his own upbringing;his mother. a bitter and miserable woman, she dragged him along in her footsteps, often feeding negative thoughts into his mind. all these caused his mind and self esteem to crumple, and finally, his only escapade is to hide within his own self, only to awake to violence towards his mother and grandmother, as it is the only way to affirm his self worth.

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training yesterday was so memorable because dear tzer was so funny! we were playing a small game, and she was in the opposing team. apparently, she forgotten which goalpost she supposed to shoot the ball into.

from theresa's blog:

Hahahah Jing was the best yesterday. She received the ball and she turned, everyone thought she was passing back to the keeper but SHE TOOK A SHOT omgggggggggggg. OWN GOAL PLEASE. She didnt even realised and I think she wanted to do THE CELEBRATION POSE JJ CAPTAIN DID. Hahahhaa. Goodness. I think she sort of stood higher than usual hahah until she realised it was an OWN GOAL. Goodness. You're the ultimate hahhaha.

and ohh. speaking of that captain, my senses automatically get turned off. i swear his celebration poses are so retarded, they wiped out his good looks. he's a male epitome of a bimbotic blonde.

and its high time to indulge myself in retail therapy! any company?

congrats to team JJ basketball and volleyball's girls on winning their matches :) Fight hard for the championship :D




Friends are like balloons; once you let them go, you might not get them back.
Sometimes we get so busy with our own lives and problems that we may not even notice that we've let them fly away.
Sometimes we are so caught up in who's right and who's wrong that we forget what's right and wrong.
Sometimes we just don't realize what real friendship means until it is too late.
I don't want to let that happen so I'm gonna tie you to my heart so I never lose you.